56. Aspects of Behaviour

56. Aspects of Behaviour

chapter 632. Excess looking

1305. Ibn Abi’l-Hudhayl said, “Messenger of Allah visited a man with one of his companions. When he entered the house, his companion began to look around. ‘Abdullah told him, ‘By Allah, it would have been better for you if your eyes had been gouged out.”
Grade: Hasan (Sound)
Commentary: That is, your eyes have been created to be used in obedience to Allah the Exalted; but instead, it was been unnecessary employed in something non-beneficial, and perhaps, sinful. As such that you don’t have the eye is better than having it and making it engage in sin. The narration disapproves curiously looking here and there. . The one who looks into a house before being allowed to enter gets the sin of one who has entered without permission. 2. The expression: “And no one should act as the Imām of a people and single himself out for supplication to the exclusion of others until he leaves” is graded weak by some of the scholars including Ibn Taimiyyah and Ibn Qayim (الله رحمه .(The Prophetﷺ has been authentically and widely reported to have made supplications using singular personal pronouns.

chapter 633. Excess words

1307. Abu Hurayra said, “There is no good in excess words.”
Grade: Da’eef (Weak)

1308. Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “The worst of my community are those who speak a lot, those who are diffuse in speech and those who fill their mouth with words. The best of my community are the best of them in character.”
Grade: Saheeh (Authentic)

chapter 634. The two-faced

1309. Abu Hurayra reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “The worst person is someone who is two-faced. He is the person who comes to one group of people with one face and another group of people with another face.”
Grade: Saheeh (Authentic)
Commentary: The text shows the status of such persons in the sight of Allah the Mighty and Exalted. Worst still, the double-faced is also never loved by the two groups of people to whom he shows different faces. When he is with those whom he dislikes, he amends his words and actions to suit the situation, and when he returns to his true associates he is something else. So for him, words are ever changing depending on the situation. How can such be trustworthy?!

chapter 635. The wrong action of the two-faced

1310. ‘Ammar ibn Yasir said, “I heard the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, “The person who has two faces in this world will have two tongues of the Fire on the Day of Rising.’ He passed by a stout man and said, ‘This is one of them.'”
Grade: Hasan (Sound)
Commentary: The narration seriously condemns being double-faced and indicates that such persons will be punished in the Fire in the manner they employed their tongues while dealing with the people in the world. The Prophet’s knowledge of such persons was through revelation and his pointing at him would encourage the person to repent from the sin and further discourage others from falling into the sin.

chapter 636. The worst person is the one from whose evil one must be on guard

1311. ‘Urwa ibn az-Zubayr heard ‘A’isha say, “A man asked permission to visit the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and the Prophet said, ‘Give him permission. He is an evil brother of his tribe.’ When he entered he spoke kindly to him. I said, ‘Messenger of Allah, you said what you said and then you spoke kindly to him.’ He replied, ‘Yes, ‘A’isha. The worst of people is the one people leave alone fearing his coarseness.'”
Grade: Saheeh (Authentic)
Commentary: The hadeeth teaches that it is permissible to flatter someone because of the evil consequences of doing otherwise. That is, being vulgar or obscene; unrefined.

chapter 637. Modesty

1312. ‘Imran ibn Husayn said, “The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Modesty brings nothing but good.” Bashir ibn Ka’b said, “It is written in books of wisdom, ‘From modesty comes gravity. From modesty comes tranquillity.”” ‘Imran said, “I relate to you from the Messenger of Allah and you then relate to me from some page!”
Grade: Saheeh (Authentic)
Commentary: Modesty will ever bring about good because it drives towards abstinence from sin and adherence to obedience to Allah and His Messenger ([r]). The aversion of the companion – t – to Bushayr’s reference to a book of wisdom is not from the angle of the content of the book but from the aspects of citing it in connection with the statement of the messenger of Allah ([r])

1313. Ibn ‘Umar said, “Modesty and belief are together. If one of them is removed, the other is removed.”
Grade: Saheeh (Authentic)
Commentary: It encourages good character and points to the virtue of a person with good character. It prohibits being obscene and ill-mannered.

chapter 638. Coarseness

1314. Abu Bakra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Modesty is part of belief. Belief is in the Garden. Foul language is part of coarseness and coarseness is in the Fire.”
Grade: Saheeh (Authentic)

1315. Muhammad ibn al-Hanafiyya said, “The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, had a large head and large eyes. When he walked, he bent forward as if he was walking up a hill. When he turned around, he turned completely.”
Grade: Hasan (Sound)
Commentary: The Prophetﷺ was handsome in nature and character. So, when he faced or turned away from people, he did so completely. This mind alertness aids obedience to Allah, the Mighty and Sublime and refraining from His prohibitions. It also leads to attaining absolute sincerity and modesty.

chapter 639. If someone is not shy, let him do whatever he likes

1316. Abu Mas’ud said, “The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Part of what people know of the words of first prophethood is that if someone is not shy, he can do whatever he likes.”
Grade: Saheeh (Authentic)
Commentary: Al-Hafidh Ibn Hajar al-Asqalaanee (الله رحمه (explained that Hayaa, “Juristically, is a trait which prompts staying away from vicious acts and prevents failing regarding the rights of people.” Thus, those who have become the slaves of their desires – especially against Allah’s dictates – are driven by lack of modesty! And as Imam Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah (الله رحمه ( puts it: “If the veils of desires were put off him, he would realize that he has failed where he could have succeeded and that he only earned grief where he thought he was glad, and harmed himself where he thought he was enjoying; like the bird which was deceived (into a trap) with a seed of wheat; it neither gets the seed nor out of what it got into!”